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11 Responses to “Guys & Dolls, Hearing or Deaf?”

1. Marko Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 12:16 am

   You are at it again! I enjoyed your personal story and how you compared your experience to your current students’ Very interesting. Keep up the good work, girl.

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2. moxiemocha Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 4:50 am

   I think it has to do with exploring the unknown. Students have grown up with each other and know each other too well. They want to see what the greener pasture is like and so they would say that that is better than this to convince themselves and others. I’ve seen it happen in rural schools where students would say oh the boy from the other school is better than here.

   Thanks for sharing…

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3. Paulette Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 5:10 am

   Oh yes! I used to think that way when I was in high school. It definitely had something to do with novelty. Once novelty wore out I got bored with hearing guys.

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4. Don G. Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 8:09 am

   I think it is a part of colonialism — internalized audism — just like many of us will say Hearing people are better at English or Hearing people know what to do or Hearing people can this or that, the kids are thinking that Hearing boys/girls are “better” at dating or whatever they are saying they are “better” at.

   Just to make my status known, I am married to a Hearing woman myself. But I would never say that a Hearing partner is “better” than a Deaf partner. I am married to her for who she is, not her hearing status (actually, I had never intended to marry a Hearing person — when I met her, I was looking for a Deaf woman…. for what that’s worth).

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5. Sean Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 9:41 am

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6. Kara Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 10:01 am

   Hello, Yes I had seen it many times when I was young. But I think it’s because many (NOT ALWAYS) deaf guys or girls are “dumb”. Again NOT ALWAYS! I did notice the difference of education between hearing and deaf. I almost married a deaf guy who was fine but our relationship did not work out. He was a good guy. I now am married to a hearing guy. Like you, I did not leave my deaf boyfriend because he was dumb or anything like that. He was smart, just that did not workout. When I was young, many deaf people graduated at the 5th to 6th grade level. That was the reason why my mom took me out of deaf school.

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7. Susan Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 12:20 pm

   Hi, Teri!

   I love your vlogs. This one makes me laugh, because it brings a lot of good memories. I confess I tend to think that hearing guys are always better then deaf guys for many reasons. The major reasons are how they dress and being polite. Also, I agree with some commenters here regarding novelty. It is always excited to date hearing guys. Interesting vlog.

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8. Deafkathy Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 2:51 pm

   Im not surprised that hearing guys/dolls would say “dating a deaf person is better than hearing person” too.

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9. Jean Boutcher Says:
   December 17th, 2008 at 3:10 pm

   A deaf indvidiaul who thinks that hearing people are better than deaf people is a person who suffers low self-esteem and an inferior complex.

   My mother had a mind of her own. She did not look at the ear of anyone; rather, she looked at a person in a Gestalt manner. Widowed by a late-deafened guy to whom she was introduced at a social event at Gallaudet, she was married to a hearing guy who found her to be a real looker without looking at her ear. They were terribly attracted to one another. As of myself, I had broken off two engagements — one to a deaf and the other to a hearing because I was emotionally not ready to settle down.

   I live in the hearing world 24/7; yet, I have never looked at the ear of anyone. I treat them equally, never unequally.

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10. Teri Says:
    December 17th, 2008 at 5:02 pm

    Everyone 
    

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11. Bill Roderick Says:
    December 17th, 2008 at 5:44 pm

    Hi Teri,
    You brought up a good topic on dating. I was in the same boat as you when I was young student at the school and I thought hearing was better than deaf. Sometime, I felt that way. Sometimes, I like to date with deaf women too. I used to date with a hearing lady but it didn’t work out. No hard feelings. I agree with you that heart, personal and communication are more important. Did you thank cupid for falling in love with a hearing man? lol lol…I’m pulling your leg. Wish you Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Take care. hugs

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